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The Perfect Plus Size Peplum Dress

The dress giveaway with SimplyBe has been extended to Sunday. For my facebook peeps, click this link and share it to be entered!Drop Waist Peplum PlusSizePrincess.com.jpgThanks Ms. Lydia Hudgens for the photo snaps!

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Dress Here | Sunglasses Here | Cowboy Boots Here | Bag (on sale) Here

I carry my weight in my tummy, so I’m picky about my plus size peplum styles. This drop waist peplum cut doesn’t hug my lumps and feels super fresh/fun. If you’re worried about your bum showing, the back is longer than the front.

More deets on how you can win this dress, here!

No, My Boyfriend Isn’t “Settling” For A Plus-Size Girl

So, my boyfriend is skinny and I’m definitely not. But, one of the hardest things about being in a “mixed weight” relationship is other people and their opinions (and projections). While I don’t often hear comments about my weight when I’m alone, I do get a very strong message about my weight in the context of my dating life. The message comes in many forms, but it’s always the same: “You do not deserve to be with him.”

Sometimes, the message is delivered via a flirty waitress at a restaurant who smiles at him while scribbling my order — it’s straight out of a movie. Other times, the message comes from a smiling face that says, “You’re a VERY lucky girl…” Is that a backhanded compliment?

Before I met him, people warned me — both implicitly and outright — that because I opted to only date the men I found attractive (novel idea, right?), that I was a “superficial fat chick.” They said if a guy was attracted to me, I should be grateful! But, I didn’t listen. I kept my standards high started dating a Dwyane Wade look-a-like.

No, My Boyfriend Isn't Settling For A Plus-Size Girl

Body politics and dating are very tricky because people have opinions on who should be dating whom, but most of these opinions are often built on myths and judgments they subscribe to — even though they’d be too embarrassed to say them out loud. One myth is that only thin people are attractive. For some people, “fat” is synonymous with “ugly,” — I’ve been called “fatandugly” before, almost as if it was one word.

Another one? That a woman must be smaller than the man she’s with. If he’s dating a big girl, he’s settling. Why don’t we ever give big men a hard time for dating slender women? Or vice-versa? What if he’s head-over-heels attracted to her? What if their emotional connection and understanding of each other is breathtaking? Should he pass that all up because she’s fat?

These crazy myths will have us thinking we don’t “match” with certain people even if they’re interested in us — what does that even mean? As a big girl, I work so hard to manage my body image issues and I work even harder not to let those issues ruin my relationships. 

I’ve seen too many of my Plus-Size Princesses convince themselves that they’re not worthy of certain types of guys, when that’s just not true. I don’t care what you look like, if Channing Tatum is interested in you, there is something attractive about you, so please grab a dress that hugs your curves and do what you need to do. 

Most of us are sitting here with so much love and positivity to give, but instead of focusing on our beauty, wherever it lies, we absorb all the snide remarks and snickers from insecure people and let that dictate our dating decisions. When a girl tries to hit on my boyfriend right in front of my face, I can internalize it and say it’s because I’m too fat for him. Or, I can understand that women who go after other peoples boyfriend’s — right in front of them, no less — might be insecure that they don’t have someone of their own.

As I mentioned in this post, some of us have a bad habit of embracing the negative things we hear about ourselves. It’s easy to listen to the single people yapping about who we shouldn’t be dating because of how we look, but when we find someone who embraces us as we are, we owe it to ourselves to embrace them back.

I brought this topic up to my Dwyane Wade doppleganger the other day — in the context of us as a couple. “You know some people think we… don’t match,” I said. “Yeah,” he replied, “they’re probably wondering how I convinced you to date me.”

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My original post can be found on Refinery29.com

Why Do we Love Getting Dating Advice from Single Men?

Question: Why do we love to get dating advice from single men?

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I feel like we’ve all seen too many episodes of The Bachelor because somehow, we’ve put guys who can’t commit on a pedestal. Suddenly it feels like the dating scene is full of this 25 to 1 ratio of women are clamoring to unlock the hearts of the nearest man and when these men decide they’d rather keep sewing wild oats, we walk around like its our fault. We weren’t “something” enough to make them commit.

In general, it seems like we blame women for being single but we never blame men for not growing up/settling down– why?

A lot of this is happening on the internet, where there is a trend of random single men who love to dish harsh dating advice to women. Mostly saying what women are doing wrong in their dating life. These men say things like “How a woman dresses determines how I’ll treat her!”, “Don’t expect a man to pay for your dates!”, “Only loose women carry condoms!” and then there are those who reminisce publicly about their cheating. Its often posed as a cautionary tale, but I think they just enjoy reliving past conquests.

From what I observe, women eat this advice up. Its constantly being shared and retweeted and I’m not sure why.

I see dating panels and advice columns from of single men, “reformed players”, men who have never been married, men who have caused the break up of their families and then found love agan, etc. and for some reason we have a laundry list of questions for them as if what they have to say is the holy grail of dating advice.

Meanwhile, I’m thinking– aren’t these the very same types of men we’ve all been hurt by?

Men who can’t commit have somehow set things up so that women feel we’re not good enough to lock them down. Instead of thinking, hmmm maybe he needs to grow up and get it together. I refuse to believe that these men have never met a woman who was relationship/marriage material, but for some reason they keep letting those girls get away. But that’s shouldn’t be our problem!

Maybe listening to single men and reformed players makes us feel like we’re getting inside the heads of the men who we couldn’t make it work with in the past, but I’m wondering why we want to figure those men out in the first place.

To me this is like taking a class on how to befriend a bully. If someone is a bully, I have no interest in seeing what makes them tick or what I did to make them treat me badly. Instead, I’d go in search of kind hearted people and befriend them.

When a woman is single and has an opinion on dating we’re quick to shut her down, but some of my best dating advice has come from single women who have been hurt before. I’ve listened to some of the mistakes/missteps they’ve made and have been able to avoid the same heartaches that they endured.

When it comes to relationships, I tend to listen to married women more, but I don’t think we should discount the advice of single women when we’re dating… especially if we’re going to hang on every word that single men say.

…Thoughts???

Brazilian Waxing for Plus Size Princesses: Eight tips for Going to Brazil!

Last week, Irina, the woman who does my waxing mentioned that some salons ask plus size girls to pay more for a Brazilian Wax,  because of their size. That really broke my heart, because reputable salons will not charge you a “fat fee”. According to Irina, the rates should be based on the service they provide not the size of the customer.

Below is a video and 8 tips for big girls who are looking to “go the Brazil” this summer… lets go! (press play, the video works!)

  1. A Brazilian Wax is when you wax everything from the front to the back (Yes, the back!)
  2. A big girl should not be charged more for a Brazilian wax. My Aestetician says that rates are based on the type of work (i.e. legs, bikini line, full brazilian) not the size of the person
  3. Having good chemistry with the person doing your wax makes the awkward/intimate process of waxing so much easier. Don’t be afraid to walk away or ask for someone else. Its your body and your money 😉
  4. I always skip nail salons and go to dedicated waxing salons or spas for my wax. This makes it easier to find someone who makes me more comfortable, if needed
  5. You will have to take your clothes off from the waist down, so I often wear a dress so that I can just take off my chonies (aka underwear) and pull the dress up easily
  6. I also offer to help, when needed. Sometimes, I have to move my chub out of the way and/or hold my tummy taunt. Saying “let me know if you need me to help” in the beginning tells my aesthetician that she wont offend me by asking
  7. Getting a wax can often feel like yoga. Irinia, my wax lady has me in a lot of crazy positions so that she can get to all my “nooks and crannies”, for me this is why good chemistry makes things easier
  8. Always remember, having a brazilian wax can make a girl feel very… *wiggles eyebrows* I always try to make sure I get my waxing done at times when it wont affect my decision making on dates. That’s all I’ll say about that!

 

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My Wendy Williams Outfit: Plus Size African Print Dress (with pockets)!

If you saw a girl named CeCe Olisa on TV today, that was me! Thanks to everyone who watched me on Wendy Williams today (special thanks to everyone who sent me pics of their TV screens you girls are too sweet)!

I’ve been getting messages asking about the Plus Size African print dress I wore, here are the deets and info on where you can buy it:

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The dress is the “Minnie Bell” dress from Demestiks and comes in different prints and has pockets! The designer of Demestiks just sent me a 15% off discount code (CECE15) so if you want to scoop up one of his amazing designs, that should help. He said the coupon expires in 7 days 🙂

Please support independent plus size designers, they work so hard!

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Cutout Tie Front Heels: Here | Dress: Demestiks 15% off discount code (CECE15)

Thanks Ms. Lydia Hudgens for the photo snaps!

Plus Size Fashion: Bridal Shower Dress

Yesterday I drove out to New Jersey for my friend Suzanne’s bridal shower. It felt so good to watch someone I love surrounded by the women who love her.  I was too busy smiling to take many pictures at the shower, but I did take my new Eloquii dress for a spin.

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A few of you have asked me if I’d tried anything from the new line, so I had to rock an impromtu photo shoot for ya while I was running errands after the shower (can you guess where I am?).

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Dress: Here | Boots: Old | Tights: Here

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Have you girls tried anything from the Eloquii line? What do you think of their relaunch?

My New Obsession: Plus Size Skirts with Pockets

My goal of breaking my cardigan addiction continues this week.

I bought this full skirt and it came just in time for the first day of spring last Thursday. This skirt definitely has a vintage feel to it, so my instinct was to pair it with a pink cardigan (which I’ll still do, at some point) but for my first time wearing it, I decided to create a crop top feel with a cable knit sweater.

I was so happy to be in my colorful spring outfit and then I walked into a fashion show and every single person was wearing head to toe black… awkward!

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I’ve been scooping up quite a few skirts like this in different colors and patterns, hopefully I’m not replacing my cardigan addiction with an addiction to plus size skirts with pockets!

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Skirt with Pockets: Here | Plus Size Belt: Here | Wide Calf Boots: Old | Wooden Necklace: Similar Here

Plus Size Dresses with Sleeves: Where Are You? | Fashion | OOTD

Has anyone else noticed that 90% of plus size dresses are sleeveless?

I can’t help but wonder if we are always wearing cardigans because no one will put sleeves on our dresses… or if designers know plus size princesses are cardigan obsessed, so they don’t even bother to give us sleeves.

Either way, its annoying… give us sleeves, please!

Anyway, last week we spoke about how cardigans are an easy trap for PSP’s. I’ve been really been trying to avoid wearing cardigans as an outfit staple, which means the hunt for dresses with sleeves has begun.

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I ordered this dress from GwynnieBee (the Netflix of plus size clothing) they’re offering a 30 day free trial here.

Plus Size Fitness: Squats with Bad Knees? Let’s Do it!

When I went home for Christmas in December, I was walking a few paces ahead of my sisters.

“Ummmm where did THAT come from?” I heard, one of them say. I turned around and saw both of them staring at my bum.

Both of my sisters have great backsides, while I hold it down in the boobs department.

I know I’ll never catch up to them but I’ve been doing the best with what I have and apparently its working and I’m a little less Sponge Bob Square @$$ than I was before!

A big part of toning up my derrière has come with learning that I can do squats without trashing my knees. So, I asked my trainer/friend Robbie to help me make a tutorial on how to do squats with bad knees.

Check it out below and if you’d like us to shoot any other plus size fitness tutorials, let me know what you need help with in the comments below!

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Plus Size Yoga Tips + Curvy Yoga Party Video

One of the things Keisa, our Yoga instructor said during the Curvy Yoga Party was that “everyone needs some type of modification”. It was nice to hear that because, sometimes in yoga classes its easy to feel like being plus size is keeping me from being able to hit certain poses, so it was good to be reminded that all bodies are different and that’s okay! Asking for modifications is something that people of all sizes need to do, so I’m going to try and be less shy about things like that.

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We also discussed Yoga Blocks and how they can be used to extend your stretches and poses to make you more flexible. If your hands don’t touch the ground use Yoga Blocks in any position to “bring the ground to your hands”!

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Thank you to everyone who came out for Yoga & Curvy Conversations on Saturday!

A special thank you to all of the #PSPfit girls who bought/donated tickets to girls who couldn’t afford the class… you ladies never cease to amaze me with your open and generous spirits.

I love throwing events and meeting you girls and it was so exciting to watch PSP’s taking their very first yoga class, learning modifications for our bodies and of course having our “Curvy Conversations” at the end was icing on the cake.

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I’ve got a quick 5 minute Vlog recap of the day below + an extended live stream of the class. If you’re looking for plus size yoga tips, there are some gems in the live stream. If you want to be inspired, watch the NYC PSPs ROCKING our yoga session. We’ve got this ladies!

If you’re interested in joining us for curvy workouts (in NYC or other cities), make sure you register for updates at www.PSPfit.com

xoxo

Quick Five Menute Recap:

Extended Live Stream + Full Class: