There is a nasty rumor going around about plus size women as shoppers… we don’t shop.
Now, when I first heard this rumor a few years ago I was totally offended. Then I began to observe myself as I walked through stores and clicked around online. To my horror, I realized that while my skinny friends would see something they liked and buy it. I had some huge hurdles that made me the pickiest (non)shopper ever! I’ve listed my major hurdles below.
It’s too expensive…
A few years ago, if something was over $75 it was really hard for me to purchase it. I hated the idea of spending $200 on an awesome piece when in the next 2 months, I was probably going to lose 100 pounds and then my pricey garment would be too big on me (…yeah, that never happened). I’d tell myself that when I lost weight I’d invest in more quality stuff, but then I had to ask myself, don’t I deserve quality stuff now? Isn’t it better to buy one killer $100 dress than five $20 dresses that fall apart if I sneeze too hard? Over time I realized that waiting until I reached to a certain weight to buy nice clothes is a form of body shaming myself. So now, I save up, use coupons and buy what I like… then I take it to consignment when it gets too big so that someone else can enjoy it and I get a little cash back that I can use to purchase my next killer garment.
I wish I could find runway looks in my size… I was a constant wish shopper. I had this imaginary wardrobe full of lush plus size clothes from top designers, but hello– if I wouldn’t spend more than $75 on a dress, who was I fooling with my pinterest board fashion sense trying to act like I would drop coins on D&G? Instead of begging mainstream designers to make clothes for me, I opened my eyes to the designers big and small who put in work to design fashionable plus size clothing and then, I opened my wallet and I supported them. It felt good to have well made pieces that I could style and restyle each season and shopping with plus size indie designers makes a girl feel like she has one of a kind garments.
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I Hope They Get it Right Someday…
I used to take a glance at a new plus size line and if it wasn’t pure perfection, I would write it off completely and hope that the designer would “get it right someday”. My skinny friends don’t expect to find all of their clothing needs from one store/designer… so why should I? Frankly, I spent all of my teen years shopping in a store for middle-aged moms and I still looked fly, so SURELY I can find ONE piece in a plus size collection to purchase and look good in. Maybe my selection will nudge the designer in the right direction… I mean, if their trendiest item sells out and the grey colored tent shirts collect dust on the shelves… that’s a clear message! Then maybe next season they’ll make more trendy plus size pieces (*ahem* ya’ll probably know what situation I’m referring to).
Once I realized that being a picky shopper was the very reason people are hesitant to make clothes in my size, I purposefully found a way to support plus size designers, retailers and brands whenever I could. I made a choice to support the plus size fashion community and when I figured out what was available to me, I never felt like I was settling. I just bought what worked for me and skipped the rest. The way I see it; when we don’t buy anything, we send the message that we don’t want anything and then the few options we have vanish.
…Thoughts?? When it comes to fashion, are big girls too picky?
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