Category Archives: Dating

Women are… Weird

A couple of you have emailed me asking about Robert and what’s going on with us. I thought I’d share a story from the other night, but before I do I wanted to give a small update: If you follow me on twitter, you know that while I do date other men, Robert is the main guy that I see. There have been so many frustrating/cute/funny/awkward/sweet moments that I’ve wanted to share with you, but I’ve made the decision to keep the details of “Robert & Celeste” to myself (this is hard because I tell you guys everything!) I will offer small glimpses into our relationship when I can and eventually I will tell our whole story here, but right…

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Curvy Converations: “PSA for the Skinnies”

I can’t explain how much I love my readers! I got this email the other day from one of you and it just goes to show how sharp, funny and insightful TBGB fans are: CeCe, My friend thinks I need to be set up. Can’t say I really disagree with her. She started working for a new company recently. Apparently there’s a cute boy she noticed. She said she was going to find out if he was dating anyone, and if he wasn’t, that I might find myself with a blind date. Okay, fine. I appreciate the effort and concern. Could even turn out to be really fun. But here’s the thing… She has a duty to disclose the fat.…

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Deal Breakers: Teeth

Last year I went out with Harrison, who I’d met online. The first night I met him I came out of my building and there he was, standing in front of his (very nice) car waiting for me. He wasn’t as tall as he’d claimed, but he was taller than me, so no big deal. Overall he looked exactly like his photo except that he was wearing glasses. This was a nice bonus because, I absolutely love glasses on a man. I jumped into the passenger seat and we zipped downtown for a movie. Harrison opened doors, led me by the small of my back… basically made me feel like a girl (which we all know I love). As we…

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Deal Breakers: A Mental Match

I was messing around on twitter today when I came across this quote: “Surround yourself with smart ppl!.. Half of being smart is knowing what youre dumb about!” I cannot tell you how many tall guys haven’t made the cut because they couldn’t hold an intelligent conversation with me. About a year ago, I was at Native, a restaurant in Harlem. My date (who lived in Brooklyn) mentioned how much the neighborhood was changing. I made some comments about gentrification and offered my thoughts on it. Then I casually asked his opinion, since he was a native New Yorker. He replied, “Um, same as you” and went back to his food. Not that I’m the most brilliant chick in the…

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Vote “No” on Proposition PSP

I absolutely love when you guys leave comments on the blog and I definitely take your views, opinions and advice into consideration. One of the things you all have encouraged me to do is to be more straight forward. Even though I’m dating other people, Robert is definitely still around. As many of you have mentioned I could have saved myself some stress/confusion with him if I had just said what I felt etc. Two weekends ago, I met an accountant named Thomas. He called me exactly three days later (calculated, much?) and we set up a date to meet up. As we sipped martinis, the conversation shifted to what we were “looking for”. I made sure I didn’t shy…

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Deal Breakers: Height

When I was in the third grade we had weekly “show and tell” in my class. It must have been a slow week because (unlike the time that Mary Verdades brought in her uncles glass eye) there was more “tell” going on and not a whole lot of “show”. After hearing random stories about weekends at grandma’s house, etc. Sandra Cartel marched to the front of the class and declared: “I think that we should all start drinking lots and lots of milk so that we can grow up to be as tall as Celeste!” then she skipped back to her seat. I looked up, confused and horrified; what did my height have to do with show and tell? For…

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A Plus Size… Prince? (Part 2)

Andrew and I had plans to grab drinks last night and I as much as I tried, I could not get excited. Part of me felt like I was going out with Andrew in order to prove something to myself. I felt like I was forcing myself to go out with someone that I wasn’t attracted to. Andrew wasn’t ugly or anything, but I couldn’t get past his size and I felt horrible about it. I mean, how many guys have missed out on amazing girls (example: me) because they wouldn’t consider dating someone who was overweight. As a PSP, does the fact that I don’t like big men make me a hypocrite? I sat at the bar sipping a…

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A Plus Size… Prince?

Remember Paige and Reese? Well, Reese called out of the blue the other night and asked if I wanted to go to DIVAS. I hadn’t been to DIVAS in forever, mainly because the party had become kind of a joke. When I first started going there, it was a packed event with new guys to meet every time, but lately it was the same few women and a handful of men who were either old, gay or just weird. For me, this made paying the $20 cover a little silly (especially in this economy). “C’mon, I’ll pay for you” Reese begged after I explained to her why I didn’t wasn’t interested. “You don’t have to do that,” “Look, I don’t…

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It Was Over Before it Began….

Saturday morning at 10:22, my phone chimed with a text message… Hi! Its me Alan I don’t know if you remember me I don’t… How do I know you? We met a few weeks back outside of H&M; Oh, yes… I remember So what’s up? Don’t tell me the sky Nothing, I’m at the hair salon, you? R we going to meet? You tell meWhere do you live? Why did it matter where I lived? I had not invited him over and we didn’t have plans for him to pick me up or anything. It seemed as if he was one of those guys who thought they could just meet me, come over and hook up. I didn’t want to…

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A Big Girl Rant: The 5 Most Annoying Questions in Dating

Let me begin by saying that I love dating. I love the awkwardness of being asked out, I love saying yes, I love the anticipation of a date night, the excitement of choosing an outfit and I love spending a few hours with someone new who is focused on getting to know me and then seeing what happens. As someone who often learns a lot about people just by listening to them talk, one of my pet peeves in dating is when the date turns into an interview. I hate when it becomes obvious that a guy has a set list of questions that he asks every girl. But I find that this is happening more and more… so I…

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