Category Archives: Dating

Dear CeCe: I’m Confident, Single & Struggling. Help!

Hi CeCe! I have a question/need some advice. I’m having a hard time because I’ve fought so hard for the confidence I have, but the fact that I’ve never had a boyfriend is making me feel sort of undesirable! I’ve never really had the confidence to have boyfriend but now I do and I’d really like that experience! I’m wondering what I can do/where I can go to meet someone. I’m just not sure what to do! I’m going to be 21 soon and I’d love to find someone to share things and experiences with! Any advice you can give would be so awesome.  -J Hi J, First of all, I love that you’re telling me that you have confidence–…

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Exciting News!!

  Exciting news… I’m happy to share with you that I officially have a book project in the works! So many of you have been encouraging me to write a book based on this blog and now it’s happening. This book project will not happen overnight, but it is happening. It’s actually a little early in the game for me to share this with you, but I’m spilling the beans early for three very specific reasons. Don’t Bang on Locked Doors: There was a time when I thought a book was the next logical step for me; during that time I pitched my book idea and I got turned down… a lot! So I put that idea on pause, I…

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Dear CeCe: Should I Shut Down My Online Dating Profile?

Dear CeCe, First let me say I love your blog. I only found it recently but have devoured every single dating post. I really need your advice because I’ve become quite disillusioned with online dating. After hearing great things from my non PSP friends I signed up a couple of months ago on POF and Tinder. The problem I’m having is that most guys are only after one thing. Some of them are blatant and come out and say it, which I almost prefer so I can move on quickly. But i’ve had others that I’ve talked to for weeks, thinking we’re going to meet up only for them to send me d*ck pics which immediately ended things for me.  Related:…

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Thinking About a Brazilian Wax? Read This…

Summer is here so, let’s talk brazilians! I’m answering all of your questions about taking a trip to Brazil. Thinking about a brazilian wax? Read this for everything you need to know. Q.) What is a Brazilian Wax? A.) A Brazilian Wax is when you use wax to remove hair “down there”. When you get a brazilian, they remove everything from the front to the back (Yes, “the back”!) Q.) Will I be charged more because of my body type? or how much hair I have? A.) Nope. A big girl should not be charged more for a Brazilian wax. My Aestetician says that rates are based on the type of work (i.e. legs, bikini line, full brazilian) not the…

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#theCURVYcon 2015 Recap

*deep breath* So, before I jump into my thoughts on the first ever #theCURVYcon conference, I’ll let you watch our little recap video…   I’m still in awe that this day actually happened. If you read the true story behind theCURVYcon, you know that we had about a year to put this together. My heart is full of gratitude for many people. Some of our gorgeous attendees If you got a ticket and showed up solo or if you grabbed some of your girls and came in a group, thank you for coming to theCURVYcon!! As I said the other day, I don’t take it for granted that you girls see and understand my dreams… One of our MVP volunteers passing out…

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Don’t Wait On Your Weight To Live Your Life

As a plus-size girl, there have been so many things I’ve put on hold, telling myself that they should happen “next year” after I’d lost some weight. But then, “next year” came and went, and my weight barely budged. Eventually, I asked myself: If I never lose weight, will I never live the amazing life I want? Putting my entire life on hold until I looked a certain way sounded like a crazy idea, so I decided against it and born was my motto “Don’t Wait On Your Weight.” I looked closely at my fear of embarrassment and rejection, issues that that kept me from trying new things and living life to the fullest. I realized that I was rejecting experiences as a defense…

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My “Perfect Person” Doesn’t Exist — & Neither Does Yours

My friend Oscar Limon, a playwright who’s navigating the NYC gay dating scene, shared a story with me about his recent (disastrous) Grindr date: After Oscar walked up to his date and introduced himself, the guy said, “Um, yeah — this isn’t going to happen.” The dude then made his point by abruptly getting up and walking away. I sympathize with my friend; after all, who hasn’t been on a really bad date — or, in this case, been rejected before the date even started? Most of us have some version or other of this crappy rejection story. We meet people, and often quickly dismiss them without giving them a fair chance. Our attention spans are short, and, in dating…

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Have You Ever Dated Someone Who Just…Vanished?

Have you ever had someone “ghost” on you? I’m not talking Patrick Swayze, sappy music, and a pottery wheel. I’m talking about when a guy or girl that you’re dating just disappears off the face of the planet — and you’re left wondering what happened. If I have a first date and the guy never calls back, that’s not ghosting; it’s just life. But, if I’m seeing someone regularly and circumstances or feelings change, I’d like to hope everyone will be grown-up enough to communicate that. When someone ceases communication without warning and you never see them again? That’s a ghost situation. My ghosting experience happened with Adrian. We had been dating for a few weeks when he asked me…

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How to Walk Out Bad Dates: 3 Easy Tips

So, last week I shared some of my bad dating experiences in this post. I explained that it’s 100% okay to walk out on bad dates, but I realized I didn’t give you girls tips on how to walk out on a date that isn’t going well. I never felt good about myself after suffering through a bad date. I did feel good about myself when I valued myself enough to end bad dates early. So if you’re in the dating game right now, here are three tips that helped me escape bad dates. Subscribe to my YouTube channel here Video Recap: “Put the Date in Perspective” If we’ve already decided that our entire romantic future depends on the person…

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When It’s Okay To Walk Out Of A Date

Walking into the new, chic bar in Harlem, I had the usual jitters that arrive when you’re about to meet someone you’ve been talking to online. I was nervous — but also excited — to learn more about J.R., the guy I’d been chatting and texting with for a few weeks. From the moment I saw him (sitting, hunched over his phone, texting), I had a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach. I approached him in spite of it. We introduced ourselves, but instead of getting up and heading to the bar with me, he stayed fixated on his phone. After about 20 minutes of this — his phone getting way more attention than me — he excused…

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