Category Archives: Curvy Conversations

Event Recap: Speaking at Refinery29 Celebrating Kelsey Miller’s Book, “Big Girl”

It’s pretty exciting to watch my internet friends do amazing things. It’s even more exciting when they ask me to be a part of it. Kelsey Miller has just released a book called, “Big Girl: How I Gave Up Dieting and Got a Life” and I am so incredibly proud of her. I’ve read the book and it is so open and honest… I feel like there’s a little piece of all of us inside of her storytelling. If you don’t know Kelsey, she’s the creator of the Anti-Diet project on Refinery29. She’s been super supportive of me in countless ways, so when she asked if I would be a speaker on a body image panel during her book launch, I immediately…

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Breast Cancer Awareness: Say Goodbye To Breast Sweat With These Tried & True Remedies

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month so, it’s time for a little TMI post. Can we talk about boob sweat for a minute? I love my body and wouldn’t change my full bust for the world, but one of the awkward parts about having large breasts is that they can get a little sweaty from an intense workout. Full disclosure: sometimes it’s just natural friction from them rubbing together through the day that leaves a girl sweaty and sticky. For a long time, I would swipe a little deodorant between my boobies. Then, after doing reading about some of the potential health risks that come from anti-perspirants, I decided to only use natural deodorants between my breasts. As we work to…

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Advice to My Younger Self: Why Being A Fat Teenager Wasn’t So Bad

I always cringe when I realize that my goal weight today is actually the same weight I was as a teenager. Maybe you’re thinking that’s a completely predictable thing to say — that everyone wants to get back to their teen weight. For me, it’s a little different. I was a fat teenager. I was the teen girl who was looked down on by her doctor as she hopped off the scale. I was the teen girl who sifted through sequined mother-of-the-bride dresses in the “large women’s” section during prom season, trying to find something that was age-appropriate. I have old diaries where, in the top right-hand corner, I’d written down my weight, circled the number, and drew a line…

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Thinking About a Brazilian Wax? Read This…

Summer is here so, let’s talk brazilians! I’m answering all of your questions about taking a trip to Brazil. Thinking about a brazilian wax? Read this for everything you need to know. Q.) What is a Brazilian Wax? A.) A Brazilian Wax is when you use wax to remove hair “down there”. When you get a brazilian, they remove everything from the front to the back (Yes, “the back”!) Q.) Will I be charged more because of my body type? or how much hair I have? A.) Nope. A big girl should not be charged more for a Brazilian wax. My Aestetician says that rates are based on the type of work (i.e. legs, bikini line, full brazilian) not the…

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How to Let Go of Toxic Friends

Thank you for all of the positive comments and emails on my last post, “How Kale Smoothies Helped me Quit My Job” I got a few questions about clearing out toxic friendships. Let’s dig deeper into that today and as always feel free to leave your thoughts/advice in the comments! When I was 12, I wore my half of a “Best Friends Forever” necklace for months after my “best friend” and I stopped speaking. I thought being a good friend meant sticking it out. I thought it meant forgiving and forgetting — no matter what. I was wrong. Keeping friends around is not always the best option, and yet I still struggle with knowing when to make up and when to break up.…

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The Pressure Of Weight – CeCe Olisa on NPR

I’m always a bit nervous when “mainstream media” asks to speak to me about weight. I love the body positive bubble that we’ve created here on this site, I feel safe discussing weight and body image here in a positive way. Related: What do Men think of Big Women Last week I agreed to be interviewed by NPR on weight and being plus size. Yesterday the segment went live. Even though we all had drastically different weight and/or body acceptance journey’s, when the other two guests spoke I could hear versions of myself in their stories. There have been times when my weight has been a painful part of my life that I just couldn’t get over, there have been times…

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Don’t Wait on Your Weight to Travel: Miami

For a very long time I felt that certain trips should be saved for when I looked a certain way. I would tell myself things like “when I fit into a bikini, I will go to Jamaica/Hawaii/Miami/Mexico”. Even though I’ve got the gumption now to book trips to those places, I still have to push through nerves and body insecurity once I get there. That first moment by the pool when I take off my cover-up is never easy, no matter how many times I’ve done it. Related: How to Pack for a Miami Beach Weekend It always feels like everyone is looking at me and if I hear laughter in the distance, I still tense up, wondering if someone is…

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How to Celebrate Your Friends #BaeDay

Usually we talk about love and dating, but for today’s post I thought we could talk about friendships. Have you ever celebrated a friend just because they needed it? Each week I document my life on my YouTube channel (subscribe here) and this past week I celebrated BaeDay. Wait– you don’t know what BaeDay is? Oh, that’s probably because its a holiday that I made up with Chastity from GarnerStyle lol. Bae·Day: noun – a day set aside to celebrate and uplift your friend(s) For our BaeDay, we did a spa day and then met up with our other bae, Alissa from StylishCurves for dinner. We had some much needed girl talk, we laughed and we just relaxed… it was awesome! Sometimes, its easy to…

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How People See You When You’re Big and Black…

I’ve had some thoughts whirling around in my head over the past week and I’m going to attempt to share them here… hopefully what I’m trying to say makes sense. I just really think its important to remember that biases and prejudices don’t always show up in the form of a disgusting act that makes the news. Sometimes those things are found in the everyday ways that we treat people. And maybe if we were a little more mindful, we would treat people better. As I watched the footage of Eric Garner’s murder I started thinking about my experiences at the intersection of size prejudice and racial prejudice. Some of you may identify with some or all of my experiences, some of…

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