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Dear CeCe: How Are Things with Robert?

October 27 2014 | CeCe Olisa

I was with Mr. Man the other day, when I got a comment on my instagram account.

I miss your story telling ;-)) on the blog (massive hint on Robert stories, cough cough! ! Lol!!)

I laughed and showed the comment to Robert, who smiled. This was probably the fifth comment I’d shown Robert via twitter/facebook/email, etc. asking how things are with him.

“What are you going to do?” he asked.

“I dunno…” I said,  slipping my leg under his. “In the beginning, there was so much to write about because, there was all this Um… Are We Dating?? tension. Now I’m like happy and stuff, and that seems a bit– I dunno… boring?”

Robert looked at me for a minute… “Why don’t you just tell your girls that you’re happy?”

I swear, he’s a genius. (I have a tendency to overcomplicate things, which is why its nice to date a guy who keeps things simple.) So here’s the deal… I’m happy! Ta-da!

To be honest, I was nervous to mention that things with Mr. Man were going well for a few reasons. 1.) Now that I’m not confused about our status, my connection with Robert is more precious to me 2.) Something I’m learning about strong relationships is that a level of privacy is important. Everybody doesn’t need to know everything 3.) I didn’t want to get all overly gushy on here and be like “oh em gee, I’m dating the best guy evarrrrr!” (that would be annoying) 4.) We’re getting to the point where people think its appropriate to ask when we’re getting engaged and I didn’t want to open myself up to those questions on the blog.

Its funny– when you’re single, people can make you feel awkward about not having someone. Once you have someone, people make you feel awkward about not being engaged/married. Once you’re married the pressure for kids and buying houses begins… it never ends! Seriously, it NEVER ends, I think my parents get asked why they don’t have grandchildren!! *throws hands up*

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Truth be told, there’s some personal work I need to do before I’m anybody’s wife/mother. Also, time together doesn’t mean that a relationship is ready for the (in my eyes) permanent step of getting married. So, there’s some things I need to see in myself and in us as a couple before I start tapping my toes waiting for a ring.

Also, I fully believe in what I said in this post/video, my time as a single girl is something I will never get back and I want to squeeze every last drop out of my solo life before I merge it with anybody. Cause, best believe when I do get married ya’ll will be like what happened to CeCe??

… and I’ll be M.I.A. just… “all up in the kitchen in my heels #DinnerTime”

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Anyway, I have a good life and I’m glad Roberts a part of it… I’m glad you girls are a part of it too! In an effort to find balance, I got a extreme and kind of cut you girls out of my dating life and I’ll try not to do that anymore.

xo,

CeCe

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25 responses on “Dear CeCe: How Are Things with Robert?

  1. laddibugg

    Nosy people! lol…but seriously, I feel you on the questions…I’ve been with my guy for three years in a relationship and the ‘when are you getting married’ questions are coming from all angles (we plan on it, but logistically it’s better for us to wait another year or too.)

    I appreciated you sharing your trials and tribulations in the dating world–as plus sized women I do think we have some obstacles, and it was good to see that other women were going through them. And while there are things that you may need to work out with Robert and/or yourself, I don’t think they are as directly related to the blog as perhaps your dating exploits were so for me at least, it’s fine to keep that private.

    1. CeCe Olisa

      LOL I dont mind nosiness from my readers, it means they care awwwww haha

      Yes, the +size dating game is something else, and I love hearing you girls talk about your relationships too, there are certain things that only we understand!!! xx

  2. laddibugg@yahoo.com

    Nosy people! lol…but seriously, I feel you on the questions…I’ve been with my guy for three years in a relationship and the ‘when are you getting married’ questions are coming from all angles (we plan on it, but logistically it’s better for us to wait another year or too.)

    I appreciated you sharing your trials and tribulations in the dating world–as plus sized women I do think we have some obstacles, and it was good to see that other women were going through them. And while there are things that you may need to work out with Robert and/or yourself, I don’t think they are as directly related to the blog as perhaps your dating exploits were so for me at least, it’s fine to keep that private.

    1. nycece@gmail.com

      LOL I dont mind nosiness from my readers, it means they care awwwww haha
      Yes, the +size dating game is something else, and I love hearing you girls talk about your relationships too, there are certain things that only we understand!!! xx

  3. slavetofashion

    I feel you!! I used to be sharing all kinds of info about my boyfriends, but when I got engaged, I realized that I had written virtually nothing about him on my blog! I’m a little more protective of our privacy and our relationship……. plus, I feel like people would get sick of my gushy, shcmoopy “OMG I’M SO IN LOVE WITH THE MAN OF MY DREAMS” stuff. But I’m so glad that y’all are happy. Being happy is awesome and wonderful, and you deserve it 🙂

  4. cathy4cc@gmail.com

    I feel you!! I used to be sharing all kinds of info about my boyfriends, but when I got engaged, I realized that I had written virtually nothing about him on my blog! I’m a little more protective of our privacy and our relationship……. plus, I feel like people would get sick of my gushy, shcmoopy “OMG I’M SO IN LOVE WITH THE MAN OF MY DREAMS” stuff. But I’m so glad that y’all are happy. Being happy is awesome and wonderful, and you deserve it 🙂

  5. Amelia

    I enjoyed this post. Thank you for sharing a little taste with us CeCe! I agree no matter what you’re doing in life people will always have questions about the next step you’re “supposed” to be taking. I just turned 22 a few weeks ago and I’ve never been in a real relationship. My parents even wondered if I was a lesbian! (Yikes!). So I am all too familiar with the “Why are you still single???”, “Why aren’t you dating” badgering. Best of luck to you all. Enjoy this courting period, I hear it’s all the rage 😉

  6. amelia_allen92@yahoo.com

    I enjoyed this post. Thank you for sharing a little taste with us CeCe! I agree no matter what you’re doing in life people will always have questions about the next step you’re “supposed” to be taking. I just turned 22 a few weeks ago and I’ve never been in a real relationship. My parents even wondered if I was a lesbian! (Yikes!). So I am all too familiar with the “Why are you still single???”, “Why aren’t you dating” badgering. Best of luck to you all. Enjoy this courting period, I hear it’s all the rage 😉

  7. Hope Varnedoe

    i was just thinking how much i had missed your story times too. i’m so happy for your happiness. you deserve it. we all deserve it. i like that you’re greedy for your privacy though, but you’re right. the questions never end. even when you’ve been married for a while people poke and prod into your life – after you have kids it becomes the never ending inquisition of how the kids are and in many ways you cease to be interesting to people. it all becomes about the kids. lol. and that’s okay. i love talking about my kids and it keeps the spotlight off me. also thanks for all your psp fit encouragement. i’m at a place where i KNOW KNOW KNOW i need to get off the couch and move but it just seems harder than ever. you are a constant source of inspiration.

  8. hopevarnedoe@gmail.com

    i was just thinking how much i had missed your story times too. i’m so happy for your happiness. you deserve it. we all deserve it. i like that you’re greedy for your privacy though, but you’re right. the questions never end. even when you’ve been married for a while people poke and prod into your life – after you have kids it becomes the never ending inquisition of how the kids are and in many ways you cease to be interesting to people. it all becomes about the kids. lol. and that’s okay. i love talking about my kids and it keeps the spotlight off me. also thanks for all your psp fit encouragement. i’m at a place where i KNOW KNOW KNOW i need to get off the couch and move but it just seems harder than ever. you are a constant source of inspiration.

  9. Cecilia Bacca

    I just found your page and it is soo funny, cause we almost have the same name (I go by “CeCi”) and my husband’s name is Roberto!!!

  10. ceciditullio@gmail.com

    I just found your page and it is soo funny, cause we almost have the same name (I go by “CeCi”) and my husband’s name is Roberto!!!

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