Today’s Curvy Conversation comes from Twitter:
I met amazing guy last night who told me I was equally amazing, but would love for me to lose weight while we get together.
He said it so sweetly, as in “please don’t think you are not beautiful and I do want to be with you just lose a little weight…” part of me was a little sad, but a part of me wanted a reason to get back to the gym because I wasn’t getting ANY love from ANYONE.
He wants to be with me, but wants me to lose weight…I know I shouldn’t care what he thinks, but I kind of do. I kind of feel bad that a guy is the reason I want to get back to the gym, but he is so damn fine Im going HAM on that treadmill!
I need your advice, should I care that he wants me to lose weight (“not too much I like your curves”) in order to stay w/me?
Thanks for tweeting/writing me 🙂 I’d like to address your question in a special way this week, if you don’t mind.
First, I’m going to give you a few questions to think about, below.
Second, hopefully some of our fellow Plus Size Princesses will chime in and offer your their advice, in the comments section because we all have different experiences when it comes to dating and weight loss. I think different points of view may be helpful here.
Thirdly, I’m going to dive into your question with some of my favorite plus size bloggers during my first #CurvyConvo Live Twitter chat/Video Stream on Sunday August 10th
In the meantime, here are some things for you to consider:
1.) You said you met him last night. Do you think its appropriate for a man you’ve known less than 24 hours to ask you to lose weight?
2.) Do you think motivation to live a healthy/fit life should come from others? or some from within ourselves?
3.) How would you feel if you gained the weight back and he had an issue with it?
4.) How do you feel about the “not too much” comment?
5.) If someone you’ve known for years asked you to lose weight for them– what would you tell them?
Ladies, if you’re reading this and have thoughts/advice for our girl– please help us out in the comments section.
Also, join us as we dive deeper into weight, dating, fashion and more during my #CurvyConvo: Live session.
6:00-7:00pm EDT Twitter Chat (use #CurvyConvo, to join)
7:00-7:30pm Live Video Chat (RSVP here)