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My Office Romance: He Got a New Job… | Dating | Relationships

February 17 2014 | CeCe Olisa

OMG, I forgot to tell you guys that Robert gave his two weeks notice at our company, so we will no longer be co-workers… eek! We’ve been the “Jim and Pam” of our office since the beginning of our friendship-turned-courtship…

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I started as the receptionist at my company in August of 2008 and Robert started on the finance team in December of that same year. By the Fall of 2009, he was coming upstairs to my desk to visit me every day at 3pm, sharp. At first we were definitely just friends. I was dating lots of other people (remember Jeremy??) but the more we spoke at work, the more things felt… different…

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I literally spent 2009-2011 blogging my way through the Friend Zone/Grey Area with Robert (those posts are tagged “Um… Are we Dating?“). Looking back, that long Friend Zone-ish period was a blessing. It takes so much for me to be vulnerable which is a relationship necessity and our friendship gave me a foundation of comfort to open up to Robert (especially about my insecurities as a plus size girlfriend). By the time Robert and I had this conversation he was one of my best friends…

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Once we were officially dating, Robert was ready to tell people but I was determined to keep our relationship under wraps, which was a total waste of time because everyone assumed we were together since 2008 when we met. People in our office politely pretended not to know. Until one holiday party in 2012 when I got “tipsy and frisky” with Robert in front of everyone.

Does red wine have that affect on anyone else???

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So, now we’ve been an open couple in the office for a while which means that Robert giving his two weeks notice sent a lot of curious coworkers my way with their questions. They wanted to know if I’m happy for him (duh!), if I think the change will be good for us (yup!) and if I will miss him…

At first my answer was a pretty dismissive; I would laugh and say “he knows where to find me, we’ll be fine!” but as our time as coworkers draws to a close I’m starting to realize how spoiled I’ve been. Robert walks me for coffee every morning when I get into work. If I start to feel sick during the day, he’ll run to the drug store to get me medicine. Last week I had a shoulder cramp and he was there to massage it… I’ve had emotional days where he’s met me in a conference room to keep me from crying…

This new job is an amazing opportunity for him and a great time for us to approach our relationship from a different angle. I’m not worried about “us”, but I think I’m underestimating how much I depend on him being there for me 40 hours a week. Everyone says office romances are a bad idea, but for the past few years I’ve been given a salary to be in the same building as the guy in my life and as far as I can see, that’s a pretty sweet deal.

So this week, when people ask “Are you going to miss him?” I’ll have to think twice before I answer…

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61 responses on “My Office Romance: He Got a New Job… | Dating | Relationships

  1. Michelle

    I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was working with my guy for a year before he got transferred to a different location. It kinda helped and hurt the relationship, but I hope it will help you to know that we are close as EVER these days! It helped us appreciate the time that we did have together and never take it for granted again. You will be FANTABULOUS and I wish you both the best of luck!!!

  2. Michelle

    I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was working with my guy for a year before he got transferred to a different location. It kinda helped and hurt the relationship, but I hope it will help you to know that we are close as EVER these days! It helped us appreciate the time that we did have together and never take it for granted again. You will be FANTABULOUS and I wish you both the best of luck!!!

  3. mschloemer415@gmail.com

    I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was working with my guy for a year before he got transferred to a different location. It kinda helped and hurt the relationship, but I hope it will help you to know that we are close as EVER these days! It helped us appreciate the time that we did have together and never take it for granted again. You will be FANTABULOUS and I wish you both the best of luck!!!

  4. mschloemer415@gmail.com

    I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was working with my guy for a year before he got transferred to a different location. It kinda helped and hurt the relationship, but I hope it will help you to know that we are close as EVER these days! It helped us appreciate the time that we did have together and never take it for granted again. You will be FANTABULOUS and I wish you both the best of luck!!!

  5. Curvy Girl Chic

    Ahhhh, good luck! I think it’s a good change–absence makes the heart grow fonder! 😀

    My bf and I worked together for a year, and on the same team!!! (Granted we’d already been dating a long time before that.) To be honest, it actually helped our relationship when he left. We were no longer bickering about work things, and work had less of a tendency to come home with us.

    Of course, there’s always the annoying fact that there are other women at his new office that I’m wary about, like, WHO’S DIANA? WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WERE TALKING TO HER? YOU’RE ONLY ALLOWED TO TALK TO DUDES OKAY. but that’s just me being crazy and I know that. 😀 hahaha

    Anyway, point is, I think it’ll be a good move! He’ll hopefully be happy at his new job, and let’s face it–when the someone is happier at work, the relationship always benefits! 🙂

    xo! A

    1. thebiggirlblog

      AHHHH get OUT of my head… I’m trying to play it real cool, but I want a roster of all of his coworkers and what they look like LOL.

  6. Curvy Girl Chic

    Ahhhh, good luck! I think it’s a good change–absence makes the heart grow fonder! 😀

    My bf and I worked together for a year, and on the same team!!! (Granted we’d already been dating a long time before that.) To be honest, it actually helped our relationship when he left. We were no longer bickering about work things, and work had less of a tendency to come home with us.

    Of course, there’s always the annoying fact that there are other women at his new office that I’m wary about, like, WHO’S DIANA? WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WERE TALKING TO HER? YOU’RE ONLY ALLOWED TO TALK TO DUDES OKAY. but that’s just me being crazy and I know that. 😀 hahaha

    Anyway, point is, I think it’ll be a good move! He’ll hopefully be happy at his new job, and let’s face it–when someone is happier at work, the relationship always benefits! 🙂

    xo! A

    1. thebiggirlblog

      AHHHH get OUT of my head… I’m trying to play it real cool, but I want a roster of all of his coworkers and what they look like LOL.

  7. curvygirlchic@gmail.com

    Ahhhh, good luck! I think it’s a good change–absence makes the heart grow fonder! 😀

    My bf and I worked together for a year, and on the same team!!! (Granted we’d already been dating a long time before that.) To be honest, it actually helped our relationship when he left. We were no longer bickering about work things, and work had less of a tendency to come home with us.

    Of course, there’s always the annoying fact that there are other women at his new office that I’m wary about, like, WHO’S DIANA? WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WERE TALKING TO HER? YOU’RE ONLY ALLOWED TO TALK TO DUDES OKAY. but that’s just me being crazy and I know that. 😀 hahaha

    Anyway, point is, I think it’ll be a good move! He’ll hopefully be happy at his new job, and let’s face it–when the someone is happier at work, the relationship always benefits! 🙂

    xo! A

    1. cece@thebiggirlblog.com

      AHHHH get OUT of my head… I’m trying to play it real cool, but I want a roster of all of his coworkers and what they look like LOL.

  8. curvygirlchic@gmail.com

    Ahhhh, good luck! I think it’s a good change–absence makes the heart grow fonder! 😀

    My bf and I worked together for a year, and on the same team!!! (Granted we’d already been dating a long time before that.) To be honest, it actually helped our relationship when he left. We were no longer bickering about work things, and work had less of a tendency to come home with us.

    Of course, there’s always the annoying fact that there are other women at his new office that I’m wary about, like, WHO’S DIANA? WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WERE TALKING TO HER? YOU’RE ONLY ALLOWED TO TALK TO DUDES OKAY. but that’s just me being crazy and I know that. 😀 hahaha

    Anyway, point is, I think it’ll be a good move! He’ll hopefully be happy at his new job, and let’s face it–when someone is happier at work, the relationship always benefits! 🙂

    xo! A

    1. cece@thebiggirlblog.com

      AHHHH get OUT of my head… I’m trying to play it real cool, but I want a roster of all of his coworkers and what they look like LOL.

  9. Inspector33

    You were very lucky to have worked with your guy, to see him more in a day than not. I am working towards making that a reality for me and mine. Nothing would be better than having my guy and my “puppies” at the office. But now you have a reason to be out the door of work at 5 sharp. .

  10. Inspector33

    You were very lucky to have worked with your guy, to see him more in a day than not. I am working towards making that a reality for me and mine. Nothing would be better than having my guy and my “puppies” at the office. But now you have a reason to be out the door of work at 5 sharp. .

  11. allana@inspector33.com

    You were very lucky to have worked with your guy, to see him more in a day than not. I am working towards making that a reality for me and mine. Nothing would be better than having my guy and my “puppies” at the office. But now you have a reason to be out the door of work at 5 sharp. .

  12. allana@inspector33.com

    You were very lucky to have worked with your guy, to see him more in a day than not. I am working towards making that a reality for me and mine. Nothing would be better than having my guy and my “puppies” at the office. But now you have a reason to be out the door of work at 5 sharp. .

  13. Nannyellow

    Hey Everybody! I work with this guy that I am very attracted to and I think he likes me. I share an office with two other ladies and they tease me everytime he comes to visit me. They say he likes me too, because he smiles so big and doesnt really talk to them much…they say its all about me! They tease me alot!. I know I shouldn’t say that he is out of my leauge, but he is very handsome and he is a few levels above me status wise in the company also. I sometimes feel like he might be into me but I cant help but remind myself he may not like me because I’m chubby. He will send me IM’s starting with “hey sunshine” and “hey you”, he seems kind of flirty alot, but I dont know if this is just his personality. We are in the same group, so I help out alot with things he needs. He offered to take me to lunch as a thank you. It was just the two of us. I was nervous but I think he was too. He told me about his family, we talked a little about work but not much, we talked about weekend plans and things like that. He didnt really ask me about my situation, that is what concerns me..with all this getting to know you talk…that never came up. He has told me that he is single in conversations before..but he never asked me if I was. I need help knowing if I have a possible “jim and pam” or am I just wishful thinking!? Hellllllppp..I am totally bugging!

  14. nancyclark46@yahoo.com

    Hey Everybody! I work with this guy that I am very attracted to and I think he likes me. I share an office with two other ladies and they tease me everytime he comes to visit me. They say he likes me too, because he smiles so big and doesnt really talk to them much…they say its all about me! They tease me alot!. I know I shouldn’t say that he is out of my leauge, but he is very handsome and he is a few levels above me status wise in the company also. I sometimes feel like he might be into me but I cant help but remind myself he may not like me because I’m chubby. He will send me IM’s starting with “hey sunshine” and “hey you”, he seems kind of flirty alot, but I dont know if this is just his personality. We are in the same group, so I help out alot with things he needs. He offered to take me to lunch as a thank you. It was just the two of us. I was nervous but I think he was too. He told me about his family, we talked a little about work but not much, we talked about weekend plans and things like that. He didnt really ask me about my situation, that is what concerns me..with all this getting to know you talk…that never came up. He has told me that he is single in conversations before..but he never asked me if I was. I need help knowing if I have a possible “jim and pam” or am I just wishful thinking!? Hellllllppp..I am totally bugging!

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