I was walking in the garment district last week. I had my headphones in and was in my own world until a man stepped in front of me.
“You’re a ‘B.B.W.’ aren’t you…” he said with a wide smile as his eyes slid approvingly up and down my body.
For those of you who don’t know, “BBW” stands for “Big Beautiful Woman”. The man was trying to pay me a compliment, but it didn’t feel that way for a few reasons. As I’ve said before, “if you like me, don’t call me fat” if he said I was beautiful, that would have been enough. Its implied that he’s attracted to me at my current size. Adding the size differentiator really is unnecessary in my opinion. Then, there’s the term “BBW” on its own… the term makes me cringe a little bit.
Everyone has their own opinion of the BBW expression. I’ve noticed that it has a strong connotation with celebrating of big girls only as a sexual fetish. Even when I went to BBW clubs in the past, there was a crazy sexual focus that is different from mainstream nightclubs. For someone like me, who was looking to date… that was really hard to navigate.
Anyway, I think the guy called me a “BBW” as a compliment, and because “beautiful” is in the phrase, I can see how he’d be oblivious to how it makes me feel.
But just because I find the term sleazy doesn’t mean that everyone does. I mean, I clearly find empowerment in saying Plus Size Princess on this site, so maybe there’s some empowerment in the BBW phrase that I’m missing.
So, how do you feel about being called a BBW? …love it? or hate it?