Dating

CeCe Asks: What Are YOUR Dating Deal Breakers?

June 24 2013 | CeCe Olisa

In last weeks post, I mentioned that the three things I require in a guy are that he’s Tall, Smart and Christian. Other than that I’m pretty open to whomever comes my way. But over the weekend I was having some girl talk and I realized that while my list of “he must be’s” is pretty short… my list of “he can’t be’s” is a whole other story.

In Dating Deal Breakers: Teeth, I wrote about one of my worst dates, when I noticed that the guy I’d met online had teeth missing on the whole left side of his mouth (When I guy only has closed mouth smiles on his dating profile, BEWARE!)

I tell the story of when I dumped a guy because he lived in a shelter in “You live, WHERE?!

Both of these guys were “Tall, Smart and Christian” as I require… but they had other issues I just couldn’t get past. For some of my friends, things like having a child or certain types of jobs are Dating Deal Breakers, while those things wouldn’t bother me so much. So now its your turn, tell me:

What are YOUR Dating Deal Breakers?

You can also tweet me your deal breakers with the hashtag #DatingDealBreakers

 

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31 responses on “CeCe Asks: What Are YOUR Dating Deal Breakers?

  1. Nessa

    Been down the no teeth date also, his front two teeth were missing and he was wearing a house arrest bracelet … definite deal date breaker. Mine would be criminal record, young kids under 13 (I’m almost 50), short. Must haves: relationship with God being a Christian is not saying a whole lot in my experience, some consider themselves Christian just by knowing there is a God, going to church on Easter, Mother’s day and funerals/weddings, taller than me and slightly older with the ability to start and hold a conversation. My views have changed as I’ve gotten older but they’re getting wiser too.
    Right now, my prayers for a husband are before God as I believe if I’m seeking a true Christian I need to be one and go to God for guidance. He exposes those that aren’t really there yet, but feel that’s the only way to get you. Who wouldn’t want a nice church going woman …lol hmmm or does he

  2. notherblessing@yahoo.com

    Been down the no teeth date also, his front two teeth were missing and he was wearing a house arrest bracelet … definite deal date breaker. Mine would be criminal record, young kids under 13 (I’m almost 50), short. Must haves: relationship with God being a Christian is not saying a whole lot in my experience, some consider themselves Christian just by knowing there is a God, going to church on Easter, Mother’s day and funerals/weddings, taller than me and slightly older with the ability to start and hold a conversation. My views have changed as I’ve gotten older but they’re getting wiser too.Right now, my prayers for a husband are before God as I believe if I’m seeking a true Christian I need to be one and go to God for guidance. He exposes those that aren’t really there yet, but feel that’s the only way to get you. Who wouldn’t want a nice church going woman …lol hmmm or does he

  3. Emily@TipsOnLifeAndLove.com

    My dating deal-breakers are bad hygiene, living with mom when other options are available to them and anyone who treats people work in a service industry badly. If I can live up these standards then he should too!

  4. emily.lloyd@simonandschuster.com

    My dating deal-breakers are bad hygiene, living with mom when other options are available to them and anyone who treats people work in a service industry badly. If I can live up these standards then he should too!

  5. HealthyAriBigBonedCurvyCurves

    I don’t have serious emotional/spiritual/personality deal breakers, but physically, my guy has to be tall, because I tower at 5’7, He has to have some meat on his bones, and he definitely HAS to have good teeth. Not perfect, but healthy, no cavities, has all of his teeth, knows what a dentist is. I agree girl! Teeth or no Teeth? That is the Question!

  6. divaaretha1591@aol.com

    I don’t have serious emotional/spiritual/personality deal breakers, but physically, my guy has to be tall, because I tower at 5’7, He has to have some meat on his bones, and he definitely HAS to have good teeth. Not perfect, but healthy, no cavities, has all of his teeth, knows what a dentist is. I agree girl! Teeth or no Teeth? That is the Question!

  7. Joy

    Like you, I have very few deal breakers BUT – he must be intellectual, he must be sympathetic to feminisim and anti-racist causes, and..well yeah that’s it.

  8. fairyprincess1992@gmail.com

    Like you, I have very few deal breakers BUT – he must be intellectual, he must be sympathetic to feminisim and anti-racist causes, and..well yeah that’s it.

  9. AstarteOurania

    Dating deal- breakers…hmmm – bad hygiene definitely, complaining about his mother is another one (yes I’ve had that happen), no job, no ambition, and being clingy. oh, also if he complains about my town, i.e. NYC, it’s a no-go. lol

  10. evangelia@aol.com

    Dating deal- breakers…hmmm – bad hygiene definitely, complaining about his mother is another one (yes I’ve had that happen), no job, no ambition, and being clingy. oh, also if he complains about my town, i.e. NYC, it’s a no-go. lol

  11. anaem3

    such a good question! deal breakers … well i think a lot of the girls have listed some important ones. For me he has to have reliable transportation, a college education (preferably equal to or higher than me), and not possessive. Those are just some of them.

  12. honey_buggy@hotmail.com

    such a good question! deal breakers … well i think a lot of the girls have listed some important ones. For me he has to have reliable transportation, a college education (preferably equal to or higher than me), and not possessive. Those are just some of them.

  13. Sondi Raines

    I didn’t used to have a bunch of deal breakers when I was in my early to mid twenties. Almost everything was flexible. I’d be like: I want him to have a college degree… but if he’s nice without one I might make an exception; I want him to have no kids… but maybe one is okay; I don’t want him to have been to jail… but maybe like a small charge like smoking weed could be okay. I had low standards and someone else pointed it out to me that I did. I never really thought about it but when they said it, it was true.

    So after that, I made a list of deal breakers. Like a legit list, and is specific as a mutha. I still had flexible things, but a lot of deal breakers. They included: needed a bachelor’s degree at least, no smoking anything, no kids, not a religious fanatic, somewhat good shape, never been to jail or in a gang, heterosexual, not into any fetishes, likes animals, altruistic and is kind to other people (cuz I’ve had guys interested in me who treated me great, but treated others poorly). Those were all deal breakers. I got way more quality dudes once I stuck to that.

    Some guys with kids would get annoyed that I wanted someone without them, but I stuck to my guns. I met my current dude with that list and so far so good almost 4 yrs later.

    Men are taught to get what they want. They can be super picky. But it seems like women are taught to just be grateful a man is paying them any attention. Please!

    We can be picky too!

  14. taikochk28@gmail.com

    I didn’t used to have a bunch of deal breakers when I was in my early to mid twenties. Almost everything was flexible. I’d be like: I want him to have a college degree… but if he’s nice without one I might make an exception; I want him to have no kids… but maybe one is okay; I don’t want him to have been to jail… but maybe like a small charge like smoking weed could be okay. I had low standards and someone else pointed it out to me that I did. I never really thought about it but when they said it, it was true.
    So after that, I made a list of deal breakers. Like a legit list, and is specific as a mutha. I still had flexible things, but a lot of deal breakers. They included: needed a bachelor’s degree at least, no smoking anything, no kids, not a religious fanatic, somewhat good shape, never been to jail or in a gang, heterosexual, not into any fetishes, likes animals, altruistic and is kind to other people (cuz I’ve had guys interested in me who treated me great, but treated others poorly). Those were all deal breakers. I got way more quality dudes once I stuck to that.

    Some guys with kids would get annoyed that I wanted someone without them, but I stuck to my guns. I met my current dude with that list and so far so good almost 4 yrs later.

    Men are taught to get what they want. They can be super picky. But it seems like women are taught to just be grateful a man is paying them any attention. Please!

    We can be picky too!

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