I just got back from my first weekend trip with Robert. We went to Minnesota so I could sing in my friend’s wedding (Robert recorded it, you can watch me singing here).
Robert and I are complete opposites in every way. He is super laid back and can go with the flow, while I can get wound up over the littlest things. At some point during the weekend we stopped to get coffee and I was talking to him about something unrelated to him that wasn’t a huge deal. “I’m just venting,” I said “I know none of this matters to you…”
“If it matters to you, then it matters to me,” he said. Then he asked me some questions about what was bothering me and we talked it out.
I smiled between sips of coffee. With all of the Romantic Comedies I watch and the Boy Band music I (still) listen to, I have to remind myself to stop looking for grandiose gestures of affection all the time. Those things have their place, but relationships aren’t built on climbing up fire escapes with roses or love songs in five-part harmony.
Something as simple as Robert caring about dumb things because they’re important to me, shows me how far we’ve come, how comfortable I can be with him and how much he works to be a support system for me.
In love songs and RomCom’s, the guy says the right thing in the middle of the bustling city for all the world to hear. In real life the guy says the right thing at a coffee shop in Minnesota, you’re the only one who hears it… and its perfect.