Disclaimer: This is a subject I’ve wanted to write about for a while. I look forward to hearing your thoughts, but anything offensive or hateful will be deleted.
As I sat in the front row during New Jersey Full Figured Fashion Week in Atlantic City (which was awesome by the way), a beautiful black model was given a few minutes to speak in between shows. She talked about how she came to be a plus size model and embrace her body. “I used to be skinny,” she proclaimed “but as ya’ll know– in the Afro-American community… skinny is NOT where it’s at!” she continued to boast about her improved self confidence after gaining weight and encouraged the plus size women in the audience to embrace their curves.
While I agree 100% with what she had to say about self-love, I had to wonder about her cut and dry assessment that as a black woman, gaining weight was the best thing when it came to her dating life. In talking to different Plus Size Princesses, I’ve noticed that there’s a common assumption that if you’re black or latina, being overweight is a breeze. But if you’re white it’s a struggle.
Did any of you read the article in the Washington Post a few weeks ago about Black women being happier at a larger size? It took on this subject from a somewhat scientific perspective and came to the same conclusion; Black/latina women grow up being praised for “thickness” so they don’t have a hard time if they’re big.
My personal opinion is that no matter what race you are– the ideal body type is skinny/small/thin and while women of color may be praised for having fat in the “right places” (i.e. a big butt, full hips or large breasts) women of color are rarely praised for just being fat.
If I took a poll of 100 Plus Size Princesses of color who read this blog, I don’t think their dating lives would be any easier than white PSPs. I would be willing to bet that they’ve all been called names… been looked over by guys… been told to lose weight in order to become desirable. And I think it does Plus Size Princesses of color a disservice to just assume their plus size lives are any less complicated.
Perhaps culturally, plus size women of color have a better chance of embracing their bodies, but that’s not something you’re born with… loving yourself its something you work at no matter what your cultural background is. But again, those are my thoughts…
What do YOU think? Does your race make being a big girl… easier?