I met Richard online and we were having the usual initial phone conversation where are you from/what do you do/where do you live… blah blah blah.
“How tall are you?” he asked.
“I’m five foot ten,” I replied. Before I could ask him how tall he was, he said.
“Oh okay… so you’ll probably come up to my nose.”
From what he said, I assumed he was about 6’4/6’5, so I didn’t press the issue. As I’ve mentioned before, I like when a guy is taller than me. Being a Plus Size Princess, there’s a strong chance I will be bigger than any guy I date. At least if he’s taller, I wont feel like I’m completely dominating him (its my preference, I don’t apologize for it).
The next week when Richard picked me up for a date, you can imagine my surprise when he barely reached my nose. This dude was like 5’7. Then he had the nerve to look at me and say “Wow, you’re really tall”.
Something I’ve learned is that guys under six feet usually add two inches to their height. In my experience, if a guy says he’s 5’10 he’s actually 5’8. If he says he’s 6 feet tall, he’s around 5’10. If he says he’s 5’5… well you get the idea. I guess because most girls are short, men can get away with fibbing on how tall they are. I mean, its hard to measure how far above your head someone is. But I am 5’10 so if a man is shorter than me, I know right away!
What’s funny is that guys above 6 feet don’t lie about their height. Guys who are 6’2 don’t say they’re 6’4 and guys who are 5’11 only add one inch to make them 6 feet tall.
Maybe there are so many girls (like me) that have a height preference and list 6 feet as their height minimum that these men resort to lying so that girls will give them a chance. But height is so definitive! so it confuses me when men think they can get away with this.
When it comes to online dating, I believe in full disclosure. I know I’m a big girl, so I make sure to put full body shots on my profile. Men lying about their height it similar to PSP’s only adding a close up photos in order to hide their bodies. Even if I hide my weight, when a guy meets me he will figure out that I’m big. And I will figure out that he is short.
Anyway, the next time you’re scrolling through online profiles, remember my rule. Whatever a guy lists as his height, subtract 2 inches and spare yourself the awkwardness/disappointment.