Remember last week when I was eavesdropping on the girls at the gym? After listening to her plan to have each one of her friends hook her up with one person, I realized… I’ve never been hooked up by a friend.
I’ve seen it happen plenty of times to other people, “you should meet my friend____”, “are you dating anyone right now? I have someone I want you to meet…”, “I’ve got a great guy for you!” These phrases are always offered so casually to my friends and co-workers but never in my years of dating has anyone ever had someone they thought should meet me.
You already know where I’m going with this– I can only assume its my weight.
My friends are loving and supportive, but I’m wondering if somewhere subconsciously I’m not viewed as “eligible” in the ways that my (skinny)friends are.
I’m not upset, I’ve just been pondering this. I’m also wondering if I would even want my friends to attempt to set me up?
As a reader mentioned in a Curvy Conversation a while back, anyone who attempts to hook up a Plus Size Princess has a duty to “disclose the fat”. They’ve got to do more than say we’re a “great girl” and describe our winning personality. They’ve got to make sure the guy knows exactly who he’s being set up with. It takes sensitivity and work. I’m not sure I’d want anyone tip-toeing around my looks with a stranger, so maybe it’s for the best that my friends haven’t attempted anything.
Have any of YOU ever been hooked up/set up by a friend? How did it go?