I was reading a post on Dating is Warfare last week and it reminded me of one of my biggest online dating mistakes.
I had signed up for a my first profile on a dating site at a point where I really didn’t want a boyfriend, but I wanted a guy to go out with (movies, coffee, whatever). I wanted to keep it light and I wanted to keep it fun. When my profile questionnaire asked me to select what I was looking for, it was pretty simple. My options were Relationship, Dating, Hang Out, Pen Pal and I selected Hang Out.
I started getting a lot of sexual messages from guys which I promptly deleted. Then I started talking to a cute red-headed guy and by the third day of chatting, he asked when I was free. I told him my schedule and then he started getting really graphic and sexual asking what we would do when we saw each other. I responded saying something like “Um… I thought we’d go to the movies or something. That’s all.” After going back and forth for a bit, I was very clear with him that we would not be hooking up. After a long pause, he said, “I don’t understand, your profile said you wanted to ‘hang out’ if that’s not what you’re into– you should really change it so you don’t waste people’s time.”
Whoa. I had no idea that “hang out” was a code for “hook up”, I thought it literally meant hang out/spend time together.
Needless to say, I changed my profile selection right away to “dating” but like Dating Trooper, in my effort to keep it light and easy I made myself look like I just wanted sex.
Have any of you made any Online Dating mistakes?