My best friend Adam is marrying his boyfriend.
Adam and I grew up together in California and now we both live in New York. At this point he’s more than a friend, he’s family. He’s asked me to be his Best Girl/Person of Honor (or whatever you want to call it) and I’m beyond excited.
As we’ve been planning the wedding and getting details together, Adam keeps asking me the same question: Are you bringing Robert?
I avoided the question for as long as possible because I’m not quite sure how I feel about bringing dates to weddings. But eventually Adam got me to open up about how conflicted I was. I feel like it could put a lot of unnecessary pressure on a couple who isn’t themselves preparing to walk down the aisle. If I cry, will he think I’m a wedding obsessed bridezilla in training? If I’m aloof will he think I’m too cynical when it comes to marriage? On the other hand, Robert and I always have a blast together and having a date to a dance party wedding reception would make it all the more fun. Why would I rob myself of that?
I went round and round with him on the pros and cons and eventually, Adam helped me to see that maybe I was over-thinking things. Adams thoughts on the matter were that if I wanted Robert at the wedding, I should ask him to come… so I did. The weddings in a few days and I’m excited that Robert will come. I’ve already told him that he has to dress up and I’m excited for him to see me in the sexy cocktail dress that I’m wearing.
In the back of my mind I’m still nervous, but I’m mostly excited.
How do you guys feel about bringing dates to weddings?