I got home from work on Friday and I was exhausted, I could not wait to make dinner and curl up on my couch to watch bad TV. As I scrolled though my DVR list, my phone rang.
“Hello Beautiful,” said the deep voice on the other end. It was a guy I had met online a week prior. For a week I’d been telling this guy to actually pick up the phone and call me instead of sending a text. It seemed like he was finally getting the hint. We chatted for a while and then he said,
“So, what are you doing tonight?”
“I don’t really have plans,” I said, wondering if he’d take the opportunity to set up a first date.
“Oh, okay… I’m trying to get my car situation taken care of. I’m waiting to get it fixed. Would you date a guy who didn’t have a car?”
“I don’t really care about that kind of stuff, that’s what the subway is for,” I could feel myself getting bored. After he rambled on about his car situation some more, he started to ask more specific questions.
“What would you want to do?” “What movies are out right now?” “What time could you meet up?”
I answered his questions and started to muster up the energy for a last minute date, just as I prepared for him to suggest a meeting place, he paused.
“Alright well, I think I’m just going to lay low tonight. Maybe we can do something next weekend. ”
I paused and then said, “Okay, have a good night.”
“Hold on! You don’t have to hang up… we can keep talking on the phone, right?” he gave a nervous laugh.
“I don’t think so. Take care.”
One of the annoying things about online dating is sifting through the guys who are dead set on wasting my time. These men seem to be looking for pen pals, people to text with all day or phone friends. The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that they want girls in their lives, but they don’t want to put out any time, effort or resources towards keeping them. These men seem more content to chat on the phone during their lunch break than to actually invest in a relationship. Unfortunately I’m at a place where I want and need more. The “talking” phase of a relationship is supposed to last about a week in my opinion.
If a guy wants to keep things on the phone/text zone for a long time, I just have to cut him loose!