I downloaded a couple of dating apps for my iPhone last Wednesday. Immediately I started getting messages from guys around the city, they all seemed cool but Adrian stuck out. Adrian sent me an initial message on Thursday, asked if he could call me on Friday and suggested that we have dinner on Monday night.
Adrian and I planned on meeting at a restaurant that was walking distance from my house, so I was able to go home and get pretty before meeting him at 8pm. I wore a black halter dress (bare arms, woot woot!), black wedges, big silver earrings and matching bangles on my wrist.
As I mentioned last week, a black and white first date seemed like the perfect thing to combat the grey Robert situation. It was a really nice summer night, I walked to the restaurant and the leaves rustled gently above me as the sun began to set. I felt cute and confident. It was 7:59 when I turned the corner towards the restaurant and I spotted Adrian from across the street. He looked exactly like his pictures; 6’1, olive skin, dark hair and glasses. I took a deep breath– as a PSP there’s always the fear that no matter how many photos I put on my profile, a guy will be turned off by my size. There was nothing to do but stand there and hope for the best!
As Adrian crossed towards me, he reached into his pocket and pulled out his phone, “hello?” he said and almost passed me on the sidewalk. I waved to get his attention and he held his finger up, telling me to wait. He was listening intently to whoever had called, so I waited. I took a few steps towards the restaurant to give him space. I made my way to the window and looked over the menu, to see what I might order. After a few minutes, I turned around to see if he was still on the phone, but he was nowhere to be found.
I tried to stay calm, but my mind started racing. Did I just get rejected? Did he take one look at me and fake a phone call so that he could escape? Should I go home? I stood frozen in front of the restaurant for a few minutes, trying to figure out what I should do. Just then Adrian appeared from around the corner, “I am so sorry!” he said, rushing towards me. “I had to take an international call for work and I couldn’t put them on hold…” I let out a silent sigh of relief and told him it was fine.
I let him open the door for me and we made our way into the restaurant. After that rocky start, we ended up having a wonderful dinner. I swear, dating in New York City you meet people with the most random professions. Adrian works in environmental consulting, meaning when we say “Save The Animals” he gets to travel around the world saving them.
Something I didn’t expect from Adrian was how honest he was. I didn’t have to wonder if he was interested in continuing to see me. When I mentioned that I hadn’t seen the movie, Inception he suggested that we see it together later in the week. The next day when I was at work, he checked in via text to see how my day was going and he called me in the evening to solidify our movie date.
While this could be considered “too much, too soon” behavior, Adrian seems aware that he could possibly be coming on too strong which makes it kinda cute. He’s pretty straightforward about his desire to see me again, but he’s almost shy about it which makes me feel less pressured.
Thankfully, I my desires to see him again are pretty strong too….